We will always come across difficult moments, situations and decisions in our lives. Sometimes, it’s easier contradicting ourselves and dodging what we know is right.
Perhaps, it would help avoid a conflict, an argument or would be a less stressful situation if we hide from it. Yet, does that mean you should bypass what’s right just because it may lighten the situation?
Sure, it may be easier to lie about some things, even small ones because you want to avert an argument. Even though in the moment it might seem easier, it is in fact making it all that much worse. The truth always comes out, and we all know how unpleasant that situation will turn into if you get caught in a lie. Even so, at the end of the day it boils down to you being authentic to yourself. “The truth will set you free.”
I don’t feel you are staying true to your character if you push the easy button in difficult situations. How can those say they don’t appreciate people lying to them, but they find it acceptable to lie to others? Telling the truth may cause an argument. At least you were honorable. You can walk away knowing you did the right thing being honest.
If you respect that person, you should be honest with them anyway. Although it may cause an argument or friction with someone, it could be worse if they found out you were lying. So in turn, you’re choosing the better option anyway. All in all, this all boils down to what your character, morals and beliefs may be.
Some people need to stop worrying how someone would react to the truth and focus on their own character as a whole. By lying, you’re going against your character, morals and beliefs. Lying and being shady may result in them seeing you as this phony person they never thought you were. They will have much less respect for you if they find out the hard way and may never look at you the same.
“Truth hurts only once but a lie hurts every time you remember it.”
Also, how about give someone a chance to see how he or she will handle or react to what you say? Some of this falls into the assumptions category. We can go round and round assuming we know how a situation will turn out if we did this or that.
Do you know for sure which way it will go? Maybe in the past it has gone a particular way, but that doesn’t mean it will this time or the next. People are changing daily. Change is the only constant. Some things I used to be bothered by weeks/months ago, no longer apply to me today. It’s amazing how you get that “Ah Ha” moment and change your perspective on things. My thoughts or opinions will switch completely, just like a snap of a finger.
I’ve had many moments in my life where I met someone that helped me see things from a different perspective. I was able to see things from the other side of the spectrum. Just like that, my whole entire theory or opinion on whatever it was… changed. It’s a spectacular moment to experience and happens often if you are able to be open minded.
Tying this back to doing the right thing – Stick to your true character and be true to yourself. Quit assuming how the situation will unfold and focus on walking away knowing you did what was honest.
“Be kind, be honest, be loving, be true and all of these things will come back to you.”