Marriage or having a child will not save your relationship

Whenever I hear people talk about the idea of getting married or having a child to repair their relationship, I am flabbergasted. 

How about start with a puppy first.

Why would jumping into a HUGE commitment change or make your relationship any better? You are in fact, adding a HUGE responsibility into your already existing problems.

I understand how difficult it may be going through relationship turmoil’s. And wanting to do whatever it takes to fix the issues. To the point you want to try anything and everything, to see what sticks. If both of you have tried everything logical to make it better, and it’s still not working, then it’s best to walk away.

Especially if you have tried counseling as well. I have seen people get married or have a baby to see if it will “save” their relationship. At times, it has helped some relationships for a short period of time. Unfortunately, it does not help the relationship in the long term. There are rare cases where it may, but the percentage is low and shouldn’t be a factor in your decision making.

Once you add another big commitment like that, then your problems are now growing. You are adding more responsibility to the plate of your existing dilemmas. A great deal of the decisions that need to be made together will now be more difficult if you aren’t on the best of terms. Your problems grow into a snowball effect.

It is important to work out the kinks in your relationship before getting married. Or having a child together. Strive for a strong foundation together before taking on the next big phase. That way you will already have a healthy relationship for when you are ready to take the next step.

Healthy relationships… “Let’s not forget it’s you and me vs. the problem, NOT you vs. me” – Steve Maraboli

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Aloha and Welcome! I am Elizabeth Cunningham - the sole creator of Elizabeth Dabbles - I graduated from the University of South Florida where I received my Bachelor of Art's degree in Creative Writing. Writing has been a passion of mine since I was a little, young peanut. I remember sitting by the window on rainy days writing poetry when I was in elementary school. Creativity has been running through my veins for as long as I can remember. I've dabbled in scrapbooking, creating greeting cards, poetry and now sharing my perspectives on life. I mostly blog about my deep thoughts, opinions and other perspectives. Focusing on finding the silver lining in every situation. As well has having a positive outlook on life. Some of my posts can be inspiring to others. My other main interests are Traveling and Fitness/Health. I truly live life to the fullest because, let's face it, life is too short! I hope you stay along for the ride!

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