Whenever I hear people talk about the idea of getting married or having a child to repair their relationship, I am flabbergasted.
How about start with a puppy first.
Why would jumping into a HUGE commitment change or make your relationship any better? You are in fact, adding a HUGE responsibility into your already existing problems.
I understand how difficult it may be going through relationship turmoil’s. And wanting to do whatever it takes to fix the issues. To the point you want to try anything and everything, to see what sticks. If both of you have tried everything logical to make it better, and it’s still not working, then it’s best to walk away.
Especially if you have tried counseling as well. I have seen people get married or have a baby to see if it will “save” their relationship. At times, it has helped some relationships for a short period of time. Unfortunately, it does not help the relationship in the long term. There are rare cases where it may, but the percentage is low and shouldn’t be a factor in your decision making.
Once you add another big commitment like that, then your problems are now growing. You are adding more responsibility to the plate of your existing dilemmas. A great deal of the decisions that need to be made together will now be more difficult if you aren’t on the best of terms. Your problems grow into a snowball effect.
It is important to work out the kinks in your relationship before getting married. Or having a child together. Strive for a strong foundation together before taking on the next big phase. That way you will already have a healthy relationship for when you are ready to take the next step.
Healthy relationships… “Let’s not forget it’s you and me vs. the problem, NOT you vs. me” – Steve Maraboli