“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” – Buddha
Words, are not only words. They can be damaging, for many years. Yes, that’s right. A few simple words can affect a person for a long time. It is hurtful to hear certain things from someone you love or care about. Especially when they may be speaking out of anger or pain. At times, they may even use your weaknesses against you when they are hurt. It’s not always intentional from them. Even though it doesn’t feel that way in the moment.
At times however, when people are in this mind frame, they may want to jab at you in some way that will awaken your sore spots. To feel their pain. Misery loves company. Yet, that doesn’t make it acceptable whatsoever. It hurts even more when you let your wall down and share something personal, that they end up using against you. It’s all out of anger, frustration or misery.
People don’t always admit their weaknesses. Which makes sense as to why people keep their walls up for a long time before they trust someone. Why would you want to open up to people that make you feel awful when they are upset and use your personal stories against you? We need to learn to be more kind and loving to people we care about. Be more respectful. Choose your words wisely or don’t say anything at all if you are going to say something that you know will hurt them.
“A tongue has no bones but it is strong enough to break a heart”.
Some people don’t realize how damaging their words can be to someone. Verbal abuse is as bad, and sometimes worse than physical abuse. If you choose to criticize someone, how do you know if that doesn’t trigger them to something deeper? Hurtful words are what causes hate in this world and people to do dangerous things to themselves.
Everyone chooses their own happiness. It takes a lot of courage and strength to not allow those hurtful words affect you, but it sure as hell isn’t easy. Especially if it cuts deeper for you and brings you back to something from years ago.
Are you being verbally abused? Take a look at the 15 Common Forms of Verbal Abuse on Psychology Today.
“You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.”
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