This particular post hits home for me.
I’ve spent countless years allowing toxic or disrespectful people back into my life. Mostly because I do not like any type of animosity. I try to forgive, and move on. However, several of these people have proven to me time and time again that they still don’t respect me. At what point do you finally keep them out of your life?
People typically don’t change. Especially if they are set in their ways and have been that way for years. People come and go from our lives often, for all sorts of different reasons. If they don’t treat you with respect, then it’s best to keep those people out of your life. For good. I know it can be extremely difficult to do, especially if you love or care about these people. But, do you love yourself? If you love yourself (which you absolutely should), then you need to put yourself first. You deserve better and you deserve the best.
Some people may try proving to you that they have changed. And that is possible. Yet, not a guarantee. Trust your gut in those situations. Make sure they are consistent with their words and actions. As well as showing you respect regularly. We are all human and we all make mistakes. But as I similarly stated, if someone is persistently showing you disrespect and is criticizing you, then send them on their way.
People in your life should add value to it. Showing you love, respect and support. Forgive yourself for allowing those people back in your life that have continually proven to you that they are still a crummy person. It goes to show that you have a big, forgiving heart. But some will take advantage of people similar to you and me. Learn your lesson from it, and don’t let it happen again.
Make it a one and all finale. Close that door, and lock it up. Time to move on to bigger, and better things. Or yet, people. In honor of the 4th of July holiday, celebrate your freedom from these people. C’est la vie.
“Beware the person who stabs you and then tells the world they’re the one who’s bleeding.” – Jill Blakeway