How many times after a break up, have you told yourself that perhaps you should have tried harder? Or, you recognize your faults and things you took for granted while in the relationship.
This could be stuff you saw while in the relationship, but you didn’t “care” enough to do anything about it. Perhaps you made other things a priority instead.
If you aren’t giving the relationship your all, then why are you there? This is just one of the many questions you should ask yourself if you’re currently going through this. Relationships aren’t easy and each person needs to consistently put in the work for it to be successful. Which isn’t supposed to be a difficult task if you love each other. Each party should be meeting at least halfway, and compromising on decisions or situations. A relationship is not about one person doing the majority of the work, to please the other person, but not getting the same in return. “Nothing worth having comes easy.”
If you want your partner to give you their all, then you should be giving it your all as well. It is unfair to request anything from your partner if you are, in fact, not doing any of what you are asking. For example, if you want your partner to be more affectionate with you, are you being affectionate with them or the relationship isn’t worth it to you? Or, if you would like them to be more open about certain things, are you being more open as well? It is hypocritical to ask your partner to do something, if you are not.
The point here is, if you love and care about the person you are with, then you should already be doing these things. Let’s face it, life is too short. Why waste someone’s time if you really aren’t that into them? Everyone that has a loving, caring and empathetic heart, deserves the same in return, with a grand amount of respect. If you can’t give them that, then let them go so they can find what they deserve. Or step up to the plate already and make the changes before it’s too late; and they end up leaving because they’ve had enough.
“You can’t have a relationship without any fights, but you can make your relationship worth the fight.”